| Location | Randburg, South Africa |
| Age | 52 years |
| Date of Birth | 4/1955 |
| Date of Death | 2007 |
| Visitors | 648 since 30/01/2007 |
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This is a story that I will always remember. Brenda's cat, Allie Cat, had to have her tail removed and when Michael (aged 6) asked what had happened to her tail, Brenda told him the following story - and he listened enthralled as she told it. This is Brenda's story:
HOW ALLIE CAT LOST HER TAIL
One day the fairies came to Allie Cat and said they had a big problem. They had made a beautiful kite but had no tail to put on the end of it. They sat with Allie Cat and discussed what they could do, when suddenly Allie Cat told them that they could use her tail. They were so happy and they used their magic dust to make sure they didn't hurt Allie when they took her tail. They took Allie's beautiful tail and tied it on to the end of their kite and were able to fly their kite high, high in the sky. Allie was very happy that she could help them and if you see fairies today flying a kite, you will see Allie's tail at the end of it.
Michael adored Brenda, as did Katherine (20 months). Michael misses her very much but knows that she is one of God's angels and that God has asked her to watch over Michael and Katherine for evermore.
Brenda's love for all children was amazing. She was patient and caring with them and they responded to her instantly. She knew how to tell a good story, especially for Michael, who held on to her every word. When he was told of Brenda's passing, he lay in bed that night and told me Allie Cat's story and I know that he will always remember it and hopefully he will tell it to his children one day - ensuring that Brenda is never forgotten. We miss you Brenda, dear friend and confidante, and will never forget the sparkle in your eye, nor the laughter and fun. God bless you always and keep you safe for ever.
Mama Bear
Happy Birthday Mom,
We love you and miss you dearly...I know lots of us will be having a cup of tea just for you!
It still is unfair however, it was Gods plan and cannot argue his motives..
Love you always
Your Cinderella
Mama Bear
Three years, it seems like it was just yesterday. I miss you dearly and wish you were here to hold my hand and hear your laughs and giggles, oh well, I suppose it was not meant to be. You are always in my heart and I always feel your strength and hugs...
You are missed and i hope I still make you proud...
I love you
your Cinderella
My Beautiful Aunty
My Dearest Aunty Brenda,
I cannot believe that it has been 2 years since you have joined the beautiful angels. We still miss you more and more everyday, i know that you are watching over us and guiding Brent and Candy every step of the way. Can you believe that Kurt and i will be married next month for a year...I miss you dearly my beautiful aunty there isn't a day that goes by where i don't think of you and your wonderful spirit. I love you and miss you so much xxx
One Year
A year has passed but I still hear your infectious giggle and it still makes me smile. I cry when I realise that you’re gone but I know you will always live in my heart. Candy and Brent, I love you both. Special hugs to you today from me and your three little sisters. We all still love and miss you so very much Brenda. Lots of love Sharlene, Shannon, Michelle & Rachel.
One Year
Mama Bear
I woke up this morning and I could not believe that its been one year since you have gone, I know that you are happy, pain free and surrounded by amazing love, however you are still missed down here, every hug that you gave me, every tear that you wiped off me, and every I love you and giggle that we shared, I have not forgotten them, and now, may every tear that falls down my face be a kiss to you, because they are happy tears, tears of memories and moments that only a mother and daughter like us could share, I could hear you laughing at me this morning trying to get off the moon bounce and I am sure it was a sight to be seen, you are always in my heart...love your Cinderella
My aunty Brenda
My dearest aunty brenda, can you believe that it's a year that you've been gone. My heart is still sore that you won't be able to be at mine and kurt's wedding. I know you will be there with us on our special day. I'm so happy that you got to meet him and got to know him. I pray you will be with brent and candy in this time of need. I can only imagine how hard it still is for them to have lost such an amazing, wonderful, full of life women that you are. I love you with all my heart and soul and i miss you terribly. May god bless you xxx
Seven Months
Mamma Bear
Its been Seven Months today since you have left, I know that you are with me in your way and I thank you for the lovely dreams. I am supposed to say to everyone that I am doing fine, but as Brent said it, no, I am not fine! My heart is aching every moment of the day, I know Brents is too, I think you know all too well what a special and unique mom you were, because every morning I wake up I think to myself, ok, what will keep me going today, and then I see you picture next to my bed and I remember.....Thank you! This is not getting easier for us, but it is becoming a reality, like I said to T the other day, I will die a thousand times just to hear your voice again or to give you one more hug, and then you did, thank you.
The last time I remember being so happy was the last conversation we had after New Year, I remember hearing you talk but I knew how tired you were and how much pain you were in, and I remember thinking to myself, you are a true hero, and I wish that more people were like you, they sure can take a lesson in courage from you! I know that you want us to be strong and to not worry about the future without you, but how can we when our futures were with you and our dreams were painted with you in the middle, now they are different and the scenery has changed considerably, but whether we like what we see now I guess only time will tell.
Thank you for the people you have given us, the ones who love us, care for us, you truly have given us the most amazing earth angels and have giuded them the right way, but still at the end of the day the hole in my heart is as deep and painful as it was seven months ago, whether it will heal, I dont know? I just know that you were taken too soon, Brent knows it too, and for the wrong reasons too, but it is ok, you did not have to suffer furtherer and go through what you could not face, we understand, and we love you always,
Your Cinderella
Nearly 7 months
Nearly 7 months later. Am I fine? No I'm not. People look at me and say, you're doing so well. How can I be? It's hard to even think that you're not here. My biggest problem is carrying on when I so badly don't know if I can. Yet people think I'm fine. Listening to your favourite song, I find no answer. Yet people think I'm fine. I have so many people I thought were there for me, but why do I feel so alone? Yet people think I'm fine. Is it normal to harbour rage at people for being able to mourn so effeciently? Or is it envy? Yet people think I'm fine. For a person who consumed so much of people's hatred and selfishness, it seems like it's burdened to me. How do I go on now forgiving those who knew nothing of you? Those who won't let go of their remorseful pride? Those who are simply too selfish to see the bigger picture. Yet people think I'm fine. I forgive because I feel I have to. Not because I want to. I have no idea about the boy who was. Or the man who is becoming. The man you'll never know. Who was he? What did he mean to you? Yet people think I'm fine. In my eyes a person only grows up when he/she realises 3 realisations. You are grown up when you can look after yourself. When nobody has to tell you to shower, brush teeth, or clean up after yourself. You grow up when your greatest fear becomes real, and you grow up when the closest to you is here no more. All 3 happened this year. Yet people think I'm fine. This new thing, this thing you knew about. Did you know? Am I imagining all of this? Do I forgive him, but still remember? The hardest thing you did was also your last. People think it was the Cancer. People are wrong, aren't they? We both know what the hardest was. Yet people think I'm fine.
Dear Brenda
My world is a better place because of you. Miracles do happen. I never got to say these words to you because you left too soon.
I will never forget what you said to me when you guessed I was pregnant. About not knowing then why I was given the gift of another child. You said I would find out why later.
Well now I know why I got my little miracle baby Rachel. And heaven got the very best mommy angel to watch over her and her big sisters.
You will always be in my heart and the girls will love you forever.
I miss you so much.
Love Sharlene
PS Please look after Misty for me.
Well, I never did this for my father who passed away in '98, although I began to write my passing on message to him. This however, needs to be done. I have come to terms with my father's death, but not as yet, my best friend's mom, Brenda.
For many she was a shining beacon of light, like a lighthouse ripping through the darkness, giving them hope. She was a selfless person, a humble, understanding, forgiving, loving, kind, friendly, beautiful person. Brenda, I cried like mad at your funeral not only because I felt as though I had lost my second mom but also because as much as I knew you, I didn't get to know you as well as I would have liked. Everything I knew about you I loved and I know there was just so much more that I could have loved about you. What a great human being you were, an example of how someone should hold themselves with the people around them. You had my utmost respect and the times I spent in your company will never be forgotten.
When you and your family first came into my life I was just a teenager, but despite the stubbornness present which is born through being a teenager, you had an immediate effect in ensuring that if I wasn't learning from my mother, I would be from you. You were and still are the mother to my best friend and will always have a special place in mine and many other's hearts. You were his rock, but I understand, and so does Brent, that it was your time to move on to a better place, where hopefully one day, we will join you in laughter!
Rest in Peace
much love
Toby
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